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Help me decide – principles for wise choices
We all make choices every day. Some decisions are not so hard, others more challenging – decisions that can affect the outcome of our future!
Let me give you some principles that hopefully will help you make a wise choice when making major decisions in your life.
Principle one – Decide what is most important in your life
What are your priorities in life? Some believe having a good career and possessions are their priority. Others believe it’s having relationships and family, while others feel their health is their priority.
Understanding what is most important in your life will help you make the best choice for you. The most important thing in my life is having inner peace and full confidence that I have eternal life.
We read in the Bible of this assurance: “We know that our body – the tent we live in here on earth – will be destroyed. But when that happens, God will have a house for us. It will not be a house made of human hands; instead, it will be a home in heaven that will last forever”(2 Corinthians 5:1).
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Principle two – Decide to uphold your life principles
Do you have principles that you seek to uphold in life? Sometimes these principles can be challenged and this could affect your decision. For example; you go for a job interview and your prospective employer expects you to do something that is against your moral or spiritual standard. Don’t be prepared to lower or compromise your principles.
This is a Proverb in the Bible that I try to follow as my guide post for making decisions. “In all your ways know, recognize, and acknowledge God and He will direct and make straight your paths.” (Proverbs 3:5)
Principle three – Decide not to make hasty decisions
Pressures will come that could challenge you to make a hasty decision. Pressure like demanding that an answer be given today! Don’t make a hasty decision or decide on a course of action you don’t feel good about. Take time out so that you can make the right choice for you!
Principle four – Decide to expect opportunities to come
Our decision-making can be affected by many emotions. One big negative emotion is fear. Fear of failure, fear of disappointment, fear of intimacy, fear of loss… the list can go on.
Another great Proverb (23:7) says, “As a man reasons in his heart, so is he.” When you think positively, you won’t be content with second best but you’ll expect further great opportunities to come to you.
Principle five – Decide if your decision will meet your need for fulfillment
We all have needs, particularly emotional needs. I have seen many people remain in an abusive job or relationship, crying on the inside as their inner need for fulfillment has not been met.
When you are fulfilled and affirmed in who you are, your decision will stand the test of time.
Principle six – Decide to ask for wisdom when unsure what to do
The Bible assures us that: “If any of you needs wisdom, you should ask God for it. He is generous and enjoys giving to all people, so he will give you wisdom” (James 1:5). This Bible verse says, “If any of you needs wisdom, you should ask”. So if you need wisdom in deciding what to do, why not ask for it!